|Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Welcome to the Fall edition of Westside Notes. At this time of year, I find myself a bit melancholy. I don’t know if it has to do with the tone of the Jewish Holidays or the days getting shorter or my upcoming birthday, but it’s most likely a combination of all of those things. Either way, I know that I get more introspective and sentimental. Nowadays, I try to embrace the melancholic part of me and try to remain curious and non-judgmental. In the past I would fight it and even blame myself, but nowadays I try to anticipate it with an open heart and more self-compassion. The change of seasons affects many of us in surprising ways so be kind to yourself and simply observe yourself with patience.
It’s Not About the Sex:
Now Available on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible
After my book was released in June, I immediately shifted gears toward marketing and promotion which has awakened a dormant part of me. Because marketing involves connection with others—one relationship at a time—I actually enjoy it—especially when I get to do things that are fun and creative. Right now I’m learning and refining the art of podcasting, webinars, PowerPoint and public speaking. And as 2020 approaches, I look forward to challenging myself even further.
Writing and releasing my book was a leap of faith—not knowing how it would be received. But I’ve been pleasantly surprised with the positive feedback and love that has come my way from unexpected sources. Scott Brassart of Seeking Integrity posted a group book review on SexandRelationshipHealing.com titled "Recommended Reading for Sex/Porn Addicts and Partners" and my book is mentioned:
A reminder for those who have read the book already: As this passion project continues to take shape, I can use all of your help to keep the momentum going. If you’ve had a chance to read (or listen to) the book, please write a brief review on Amazon, and I will be very grateful for your time and effort.
Center for Healthy Sex Speaker Series
Emotional Sobriety as a Catalyst
Sustainable Sexual Sobriety
Los Angeles, California
October 25, 2019, 1:15pm
Dr. Foojan’s Radio Show
Inner Voice — Heartfelt Chat
KMET 1490 AM (ABC news radio)
October 21, 2019, 3:20pm (Pacific)
Brainspotting and Sexual Addiction:
Restoring the Wisdom of the Nervous System
October 16, 2019, 9:00am (Pacific)
Conferences and Trainings:
Brainspotting and Group Therapy
In July I attended a 2-day Brainspotting training focused solely on the healing of addictive, compulsive behaviors. Dr. Roby Abeles, originator of the “Crocodile Setup” travelled to us from Sydney, Australia and blends her enthusiasm and passion for working with addictions to the Brainspotting community. So grateful for the kind, humble focus she brings to her model.
On November 15-17, Dr. David Grand, the developer of Brainspotting, will be facilitating a Brainspotting 3 weekend in Marina del Rey. Because he facilitates mostly international trainings, it’s rare to see Dr. Grand here on L.A. soil. We are thrilled for him to visit our growing Los Angeles Brainspotting community.
In September the Group Psychotherapy Association of Los Angeles hosted Dr. Aaron Black from Rochester, New York as he presented on Attachment, Mentalization and Modern Analytic theories. In front of a sellout audience, Dr. Black presented complicated concepts in a user-friendly way. And the experiential aspect of the weekend gave everyone attending a firsthand experience of the group process. It’s always inspiring to see the GPALA community grow and expand.
It’s that time again. On November 2-3, the Group Principles of Psychotherapy course will be offered here in Venice, CA. It’s a 2-day group therapy immersion that serves as a prerequisite to become a Certified Group Psychotherapist (CGP). Once again, I’ll be part of the faculty along with three very talented and dedicated colleagues. Please join us or spread the word if you know anyone who may be interested. For more information, visit www.gpala.org.
Speaking of group, I currently have two openings in my Monday night mixed adult interpersonal process group. The group is made up of members who have been in individual therapy and would like to work on themselves within the context of a group. Please contact me if you have any questions.
The Cookie Thief by Valerie Cox
(submitted by Jen Davis, AMFT)
A woman was waiting at an airport one night
With several long hours before her flight
She hunted for a book in the airport shops
Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop
She was engrossed in her book but happened to see
That the man sitting beside her as bold as could be
Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between
Read more . . .
Enjoy the rest of the autumn season. And if you happen to live in a region where leaves change color, take a little extra time to savor the change of seasons.
In This Issue:
It’s Not About the Sex:
Now Available on Amazon,
Kindle, and Audible
Conferences and Trainings
The Cookie Thief (A Poem)
Order Andrew’s Workbook:
From Now On:
Seven Keys to Purposeful Recovery
Andrew Susskind, LCSW, SEP, CGP is
a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Certified Group Psychotherapist
and Certified Brainspotting Practitioner who brings more than 28 years of experience to his work.
Jen Davis, M.A. is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in the following areas: addictions, depression and anxiety, the psychology of women, unblocking creativity, living with grief, and trauma.
Read more about Andrew’s
Read more about Somatic Experiencing
Read More about Brainspotting
View Andrew’s therapy video
12-Step Self-Help Groups