Welcome to the Fall edition of Westside Notes. At this time of year, I find myself a bit melancholy. I don’t know if it has to do with the tone of the Jewish Holidays or the days getting shorter or my upcoming birthday, but it’s most likely a combination of all of those things. Either way, I know that I get more introspective and sentimental. Nowadays, I try to embrace the melancholic part of me and try to remain curious and non-judgmental. In the past I would fight it and even blame myself, but nowadays I try to anticipate it with an open heart and more self-compassion. The change of seasons affects many of us in surprising ways so be kind to yourself and simply observe yourself with patience.

It’s Not About the Sex:
Now Available on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible

After my book was released in June, I immediately shifted gears toward marketing and promotion which has awakened a dormant part of me. Because marketing involves connection with others—one relationship at a time—I actually enjoy it—especially when I get to do things that are fun and creative. Right now I’m learning and refining the art of podcasting, webinars, PowerPoint and public speaking. And as 2020 approaches, I look forward to challenging myself even further.

Writing and releasing my book was a leap of faith—not knowing how it would be received. But I’ve been pleasantly surprised with the positive feedback and love that has come my way from unexpected sources. Scott Brassart of Seeking Integrity posted a group book review on SexandRelationshipHealing.com titled "Recommended Reading for Sex/Porn Addicts and Partners" and my book is mentioned: https://sexandrelationshiphealing.com/blog/recommended-books-for-sex-porn-addicts-and-partners/

A reminder for those who have read the book already: As this passion project continues to take shape, I can use all of your help to keep the momentum going. If you’ve had a chance to read (or listen to) the book, please write a brief review on Amazon, and I will be very grateful for your time and effort.

October Appearances

Center for Healthy Sex Speaker Series
Emotional Sobriety as a Catalyst toward
Sustainable Sexual Sobriety
Los Angeles, California October 25, 2019, 1:15pm

Dr. Foojan’s Radio Show
Inner Voice — Heartfelt Chat
KMET 1490 AM (ABC news radio)
October 21, 2019, 3:20pm (Pacific)

C4 Webinar
Brainspotting and Sexual Addiction:
Restoring the Wisdom of the Nervous System
October 16, 2019, 9:00am (Pacific)

Conferences and Trainings:
Brainspotting and Group Therapy

Brainspotting:
In July I attended a 2-day Brainspotting training focused solely on the healing of addictive, compulsive behaviors. Dr. Roby Abeles, originator of the “Crocodile Setup” travelled to us from Sydney, Australia and blends her enthusiasm and passion for working with addictions to the Brainspotting community. So grateful for the kind, humble focus she brings to her model.

On November 15-17, Dr. David Grand, the developer of Brainspotting, will be facilitating a Brainspotting 3 weekend in Marina del Rey. Because he facilitates mostly international trainings, it’s rare to see Dr. Grand here on L.A. soil. We are thrilled for him to visit our growing Los Angeles Brainspotting community.

Group Therapy:
In September the Group Psychotherapy Association of Los Angeles hosted Dr. Aaron Black from Rochester, New York as he presented on Attachment, Mentalization and Modern Analytic theories. In front of a sellout audience, Dr. Black presented complicated concepts in a user-friendly way. And the experiential aspect of the weekend gave everyone attending a firsthand experience of the group process. It’s always inspiring to see the GPALA community grow and expand.

It’s that time again. On November 2-3, the Group Principles of Psychotherapy course will be offered here in Venice, CA. It’s a 2-day group therapy immersion that serves as a prerequisite to become a Certified Group Psychotherapist (CGP). Once again, I’ll be part of the faculty along with three very talented and dedicated colleagues. Please join us or spread the word if you know anyone who may be interested. For more information, visit www.gpala.org.

Group Openings

Speaking of group, I currently have two openings in my Monday night mixed adult interpersonal process group. The group is made up of members who have been in individual therapy and would like to work on themselves within the context of a group. Please contact me if you have any questions.

The Cookie Thief by Valerie Cox
(submitted by Jen Davis, AMFT)

A woman was waiting at an airport one night With several long hours before her flight She hunted for a book in the airport shops Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop

She was engrossed in her book but happened to see That the man sitting beside her as bold as could be Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between

Read more . . .

Enjoy the rest of the autumn season. And if you happen to live in a region where leaves change color, take a little extra time to savor the change of seasons.

Gratefully,

Andrew

Fall 2019

In This Issue:

• It’s Not About the Sex:
  Now Available on Amazon,
  Kindle, and Audible
• October Appearances
• Conferences and Trainings
• Group Openings
• The Cookie Thief (A Poem)

Order Andrew’s Workbook:
From Now On:
Seven Keys to Purposeful Recovery